Well, I have never had this problem. I have found someone who accepts my diabetes and tries to learn more about it if there's something he does not understand. However, I was the one who was afraid that I may not be able to have children. We got married a little more than a year ago and to this day, my husband still encourages me that things will be ok and that I have nothing to worry about. That even if my sugars are fluctuating still, he will do all that he can to help keep me in control so that when we are ready to have children, we can do so healthily. His family is even encouraging and when cooking holiday meals, they keep my diabetes in mind, trying to make dishes low in sugar, carbs, fat, & sodium. (Sodium has nothing to do with it, but my husband & I both don't like salty foods.)
So, needless to say, I think that you just haven't found that "soul mate" yet. If someone really and truly loves you, they will accept you for who you are, everything that you are, and all your faults. Not only that, but they will let their family know and ask them to be just as encouraging to love you the way they love you because in the end, it would be a family's unconditional love to accept a "new" family member. Be patient, love will find you when you least expect it. Besides, you deserve so much better than someone who can so easily dismiss you for something that may just be but a small hurdle in a relationship, but nothing that cannot be jumped over and accomplished.
All the best with the new year!
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Like many of the teenagers that have said something about this. I am only 15 and think that people that we date should hear us out before they juged us, Just cause we have diabetes does not mean that we cant have kids or get married. My brother soon to be wife mother is a diabetic and is marred for the 2nd time and has 2 kids which i think that she had before she got diabetes. But still I think that it is un fair that people just want to dump you just cause you have diabetes. I am dating the same guy for the 2nd time and when I told him the 1st time we were dating that I had diabetes. He told me that he kown that and that he talked about it in health class at school ( the health teacher talks about stuuf like that when it is the mouth to talk about it) He always told me that iy did not matter to him if I had diabetes, and he said that his mom and dad told him that I have diabetes, I love that he is like that. When I told him that i had diabetes I though that he would dump me like that but he did not do that. And I am only 15 and I found the guy that takes me for me not dont want to change me and I love him for that.
I Ask meself why me and than i say why not me -Nick Jonas
Diabetes dont have me I have diabetes
stilledlife Wedding vowels have inspired me in times when I think about my future.
Wedding vowels have inspired me in times when I think about my future.
Especially the "A, E, I, O, U and sometimes Y's" :P
9x - 7i > 9x - 21u
Pat stilledlife Wedding vowels have inspired me in times when I think about my future. Especially the "A, E, I, O, U and sometimes Y's" :P
Yes - vows are promises. Vowels are letters. ;)
On topic though, I would agree with others to not make a big deal out of it. If you have to check your BG, don't go to the bathroom, but just test where ever you happen to be. You don't have to make a big production out of it, waving a lancet around, etc. but just say, "oh I have to test my blood sugar." Then when you get the 'surprised' look, just mention, Oh, yeah, I have diabetes.
If you wait a while and then sit them down and say, 'I have something very serious to tell you: I have diabetes." I think the person will take it as being a much bigger shock and tend to think it is much more dramatic than it is in day to day life. I'm not saying you should minimize how challenging diabetes is, just that saying that showing it is just a part of your daily life, would seem to be the way to go to gain more acceptance as just another aspect of who you are.
Marriage is a union of two hearts. I got type 1 late in life and my husband supports me all the way. When we got genetic counseling when I was pregnant with child #1 we discussed everything, including diabetes. The doctor said that I had a 1 in 5 chance of getting diabetes because of my grandmother's type 1. We did not expect that my dad would get LADA and I would get type 1 at 42.
In short, if the person you're dating cannot accept your diabetes (in fact all of you), then he/she is not for you.
type 1 dx: 11/30/07
A1C December 2012: 6.0%
Mom, Granny, PWDT1D
okcpwd1 Marriage is a union of two hearts bank accounts.
Marriage is a union of two hearts bank accounts.
Can't wait!
diabetics are dirty, gross, and contagious. and i'm pretty sure it says somewhere in the bible "thou shalt not procreate with a person of sugary blood."
or something like that.
therefore, we shouldn't be allowed to get married, have children, or vote, and westboro baptist church should protest at all our funerals.
The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.
Pat okcpwd1 Marriage is a union of two hearts bank accounts. Can't wait!
hahaha. part of me agrees with you pat.
a spouse is someone who shares the same financial vision of the future that you do. luckily right now my wife is my sugar mama, but i know the day will come when i have to repay her.
now, thats what i call marriage a damn good agreement.
Better is the enemy of good.
Voltaire
hahaha C your satire is hilarious.
i have never had a bf.. but i have fear of wen i meet someone and telling them i have diabetes... im afraid they are going to play judgement.. but if they cant accept your diabetes, they arent someone you should want to be with.. and thats really REALLY sad if parents do that.. you could always educate them....
Diabetics are better lovers. Just ask my wife. LOL
Seriously, if a date scowls when they learn one has diabetes, time to keep searching.
Jedski
Type 1 since 1966
Pumping since 2000
CGM Since 2009
Accepting Those Things I Cannot Change 1 Day At A Time
I was diagnosed barely a month after me and my now fiance got together. His mom and step dad have diabetes (which they really don't take care of unfortunately) but I'm pretty sure they are T2... I am T1 and I ended up with a pump. Sometimes I think he is more worried about it than I am... But he knows what to do when I get too high or too low and has taken care of me when I am sick, which the first one was a doozy. I am lucky I am with someone who kind of understood what diabetes was when I was diagnosed. I was very self conscious at first but he reassured me he didn't care about my pump or my sites, that he loved me no matter what (that was after some time of dating of course) But like everyone else says, if they can't handle that you have diabetes, then find someone who can... someone is out there! :D
Gear<3
I haven't had a huge problem with past boyfriends not wanting to be with me because of diabetes. The worst I've experienced is them ignoring it. The problem I've had is with the parents. My ex-fiance's parents told him, in front of me, that I was too high-maintenance because of my health problems (In addition to T1D, I have cystinuria, which led to the loss of my right kidney). I explained that I do not need a babysitter, and am perfectly capable of taking care of myself with little to no outside help, but they had made up their minds. I simply wasn't good enough for their little angel of a son. Needless to say, that relationship went downhill very quickly after that.
Now, I'm with an amazing man who sincerely wants to be a part of my health management.
If the person you're with isn't comfortable with your diabetes, or wants to ignore it, just imagine what they'll be like when other stressful issues come up in the relationship. You can do better!