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How do you cope without spousal support

My husband started up a new set of arguments about my t1d. Now he says I have a hypochondriac mindset and that is causing my ocular hypertension. He says I will just keep getting sicker and sicker unless I stop thinking and talking about t1d. The moderate elevation of IOP predates the t1d diagnosis by a couple of years so I don’t see his point. Anyway I find it impossible not to think about t1d with at least 4 injections a day and checking bg. I have been diagnosed for 6 months and still find it a bit overwhelming. Now I have to avoid any mention of it at all and if he knew I was on this forum he’d go nuts.
I have to back to the opthamologist for a visual field test and my husband started comaining about all my problems.
I’m doing well with a1c at 6.1 and no visible nerve damage in the eye, just the moderately high IOP.
I keep coming back complaining about my spouse’s attitude but I just have to vent somewhere. So thanks!
I won’t let him talk me out of necessary doctor visits but I will try to honor his request to never talk of t1d in his presence.

  • #122791
  • @sneathbupp, that kind of sucks, pardon my profanity.

    I don’t see how stress is related to glaucoma and many times is also only loosely related to high blood pressure, in my opinion. (I am not a doctor and I also don’t play one on TV).

    keeping tabs on both (IOP and blood pressure) is part of our deal. I see my retina specialist every 6 months, I have great pressure but I have diabetic on-disk retinopathy. sorry you don’t have support, hopefully you can get some here.

  • #122801
  • Hello, It may be that your husband just does not know how to give you support. This is all new to him as well as you.
    Might be just as scarry to him also because he is just not sure what to do. Try to stick to the POSITIVE things when
    you communicate with him.

  • #122958
  • Heck, I know I’m boring people with my thoughts and comments on diabetes.

    That said, I don’t quite know what I’d do without my wife’s support! She actually has a timer on her cell phone to remind me to take my Lantus at night!

    Sorry for such struggles.


  • #123288
  • I fear you may need a marriage counselor….he’s dismissing your legitimate concerns with a mix of contempt and disrespect. He has left you on your own with this disease. To NEVER talk about this in hiss presence is a bit crazy. If he won’t go see a counselor is suggest going to see one on your own then.

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